What do you do for your friends, when they need help?
They don’t ask (they never ask); I’ve never met anyone who hauled up a flag and yelled Help! Usually they just retire from view. Some disappear altogether. But then maybe they don’t want a shoulder to cry on, or a shared coffee table on which to set the world to rights.
Maybe they want someone to go to for a chat, about other stuff, ordinary things. A bit of light relief. I dunno, but I worry that sometimes it’s not enough to just watch.