In terms of lifestyle, my role model is Mr. Miyagi from the movie the Karate Kid. It’s not necessarily that I want to be a janitor or a karate expert or have a really cool Japanese-style home with a collection of classic 1950s cars in the drive (see image).
But I do like the idea that my private life is my own, that it is a haven, that it is just as valuable as the stuff I do publicly, more so in fact, and that my interior life is more precious to me than the stuff I do for a living.
So Mr. Miyagi, or alternatively, the character Wemmick from the novel Great Expectations, are perfect role models for that.
The two worlds – private and public – are kept separate.
And to be honest, the idea of being a janitor is not unattractive, so long as my home and my private life is honest and beautiful and true.